I don’t need you to apologize profusely when you misgender me. Apologize once, don’t do it again, let’s move on. This happened a lot when I was early in my transition. Someone would use the wrong pronoun and then fall all over themselves to apologize. That may seem like a nice thing to do, but in reality it just calls attention to the situation and makes the misgendered person feel worse. It was also often the case that the person doing the profuse apologizing would promptly mess up the pronoun again. Here’s how to handle the situation: Apologize once, don’t do it again. That’s all. And if someone corrects you about their preferred pronoun, don’t get defensive. Just use the correct one next time.